By Mat Liebovitz
Like many things in life the key to success in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is not how one deals with their successes, but how they manage their failures. The most successful people in all aspects of life are the ones that tend to handle the constant failure that is inevitable in this human experience.
As practitioners of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu we are constantly dealing with setbacks, such as injuries, time restrictions, or just feeling worn down from rigorous training. Sometimes it can feel like something is always going wrong and no progress is being made. There are various ways to deal with these constant setbacks and failures, however one method has worked well for me, and that is to have a strong mind by developing a positive outlook.
Positive Mental Outlook
Having a strong mind is the best way to overcome failures in both martial arts, and life. A situation can be exactly the same, but how the situation is dealt with will determine if the outcome will be positive or negative.
An example of this is injury. If you break your arm, and wallow in the fact that you can’t train, that your arm hurts and feel sorry for yourself, than the opportunity to grow stronger is lost and the situation remains negative. However, if the same injury occurs and the mindset is that the injury is an opportunity to grow stronger, than that time spent injured was not wasted, but instead used to build yourself up and be the person that you want to be.
An important aspect in developing this mindset is acceptance. I once read that there are only two situations in life, a situation that you can control, and a situation that you cannot control. Accept any given situation without fear; simply take the necessary steps to overcome that situation. If a situation is hopeless, and nothing can be done, than the only course of action is to accept the situation and grow stronger from it.
As this mindset is developed over time it becomes easier to turn negative situations into positive ones. Weeks where you are getting dominated by everyone on the mat will be viewed as good training, and your team getting better instead of thinking you got worse. Injuries will almost be welcomed and greeted as opportunity’s to grow stronger knowing that by dealing with the injury now, it will make you a better, stronger person in not only this moment, but in every moment to follow for the rest of your life.
A strong mind and positive outlook can be developed by every practitioner of Brazilian Jiujitsu through discipline, focus, and consistency.
If you are courageous enough to be tested on the mats, than you are strong enough to develop a positive mindset that will prepare you to overcome all setbacks in life.